Well it is no secret at all that there appears to be lots and lots of ways to make money online. Type it in on google and you will see thousands of ways to making money. Here is my advice...they are all scams! If they aren't scams completly against you then they are scams completly against someone else.
Starting an online buisness is probabley the best way to earn money online, truly, and its fun! Think about it, starting your own website, just got a merchants agreement, the most difficult thing to do is think of what you want to sell your buyers. Once you've figured out what you want to sell: this is what you do.
Well first of all I hope that if you are going to do this, you know something about it. If you don't then I dont suggest you get any help from anyone online except maybe google. If your going to get advice from a website, make sure you do a backround check first. Take a class in online buisness or maybe even take some buisness classes. I mean, do what you want but you want to make sure that you are 100 percent prepared for anything that happens.
Buisness is very appealing to me. i enjoy being creative, building things and ofcourse its nice to see that I profit from my work. If I, personally was going to make money on scams, I would feel like shit. In fact, to all scammers out there, go fuck yourselves because you are the dirtiest people around.
Anyway, if you don't want to start an online buisness but you still want to make "beer money" then go to http://www.cashcrate.com/ because they will actually pay out. Keep in mind that most of the links to that site lead to scam sites, cashcrate although is not a scam site but it almost appears to be because of all the scam sites it allows...so maybe it is a scam site! I dunno...just take my advice...do not give away hundreds of dollars of your HARD EARNED MONEY in hopes that you will become rich overnight. Besides, the more realistic online jobs don't really get paid THAT much, those jobs are for people who want a second in come, and if they put ALL their time into it then they MIGHT get something out of it, I dunno though.
Keep Smilin,
Mantis
Thursday, November 5, 2009
Wednesday, November 4, 2009
Addiction: Understanding an Addict
Addiction, it is a trickey subject. Most people do not understand addiction and yet, so many people are addicts. Well, I am here to clear up any questions you may have about addiction and what you could do about your addiction if you are an addict.
Let start with the most common form of addiction, drug addiction:
Who is a drug addict? A drug addict simply is someone who cannot stop using drugs at any costs. Cannot live free of drugs and cannot enjoy life without drugs. Because the addict is constantly putting drugs into their body, they begin to numb their concious and do things like steal, rob, cheat. Infact, a drug addict will do just about anything to get "the next one". This becomes very painful for the person, their lives become shatterd and usually wind up in jail's, rehabs and unfortinitly death. This is why drug addiction is such a problem, because it could kill you! It could lead to others being killed because a drug addict will do just about ANYTHING to get drugs.
Society tends to look down on drug addicts but they shouldn't. As humans would should all be willing to understand that they just have a problem.
Now I am not here to promote anything and I am not a spokes person for anything, but the easiest answer for the drug addict who is just about ready to die, is Narcotics Anonymous. In that group they welcome everyone, help everyone that walks in and offer tools to make your life better, if you are a drug addict.
For the family: Many of you do not accept the fact that your husband, son, daughter, cousin, neice is a drug addict. How do I know this? because I work at a drug rehab and it takes a long time usually for the family to come to terms with this. "Why can't they just stop?" "Why can't they just be cured?" Well the answer is very simple: because they are drug addicts. They have a little switch in their head that tends to pull itself automatically and when that switch is pulled, the person is going to used. The reason why I suggest Narcotics Anonymous to any drug addict is because the people in that program are just like you. They offer tools so that you can manage that switch in your head and to make life more valuable and beautiful.
Why can't addiction ever be cured? Well addiction is a funny thing. When a drug addict stops using drugs, first they go onto a pink cloud usually. They feel that everything in life is perfect(because anything is better than using everyday) but they are still somewhat in a fantasy world. This is not a completly bad place to be in because this means the addict is gaining confidence back, self esteem. But eventually life is going to kick back in, things are going to start moving forward and this is why the addict must be prepared. After months of abstinence from drugs the addiction begins to kick back in. But it may not flick the drug switch, it may come at the addict in other ways. Maybe the addict gets a job and becomes obsessed with money, or obsessed with porn, obsessed with hookers. ANYTHING LITERALLY, the addiction will literally do ANYTHING to make the addict suffer. You have to remember, the disease of addiction wants you dead.
Tips for family members:
If your addict family member has a little clean time and you both get in a fight, do not bring up past incidents when the addict was using. The past is the past, its time to move forward.
You don't have to be overly protective or overly sweet to your addict family member. I know it is hard to trust them again so it is ok to take everything they say with a grain of salt, but don't over due it, let them recover.
This one is ONLY a suggestion but suggest your addict family member to go to a self help program, preferbly Narcotics Anonymous or Alcoholics Anonymous. This is so that they get the tools to help them in their recovery.
I am in no way a spokes person for any self help group, for any drug rehab, these are just things that I've learned, I've seen them work, I understand how they work and I have compassion for every single drug addict and every single family member of that drug addict who walks the planet. This advice is up to you to take and I hope you learned a thing or to. Don't forget to smile.
Let start with the most common form of addiction, drug addiction:
Who is a drug addict? A drug addict simply is someone who cannot stop using drugs at any costs. Cannot live free of drugs and cannot enjoy life without drugs. Because the addict is constantly putting drugs into their body, they begin to numb their concious and do things like steal, rob, cheat. Infact, a drug addict will do just about anything to get "the next one". This becomes very painful for the person, their lives become shatterd and usually wind up in jail's, rehabs and unfortinitly death. This is why drug addiction is such a problem, because it could kill you! It could lead to others being killed because a drug addict will do just about ANYTHING to get drugs.
Society tends to look down on drug addicts but they shouldn't. As humans would should all be willing to understand that they just have a problem.
Now I am not here to promote anything and I am not a spokes person for anything, but the easiest answer for the drug addict who is just about ready to die, is Narcotics Anonymous. In that group they welcome everyone, help everyone that walks in and offer tools to make your life better, if you are a drug addict.
For the family: Many of you do not accept the fact that your husband, son, daughter, cousin, neice is a drug addict. How do I know this? because I work at a drug rehab and it takes a long time usually for the family to come to terms with this. "Why can't they just stop?" "Why can't they just be cured?" Well the answer is very simple: because they are drug addicts. They have a little switch in their head that tends to pull itself automatically and when that switch is pulled, the person is going to used. The reason why I suggest Narcotics Anonymous to any drug addict is because the people in that program are just like you. They offer tools so that you can manage that switch in your head and to make life more valuable and beautiful.
Why can't addiction ever be cured? Well addiction is a funny thing. When a drug addict stops using drugs, first they go onto a pink cloud usually. They feel that everything in life is perfect(because anything is better than using everyday) but they are still somewhat in a fantasy world. This is not a completly bad place to be in because this means the addict is gaining confidence back, self esteem. But eventually life is going to kick back in, things are going to start moving forward and this is why the addict must be prepared. After months of abstinence from drugs the addiction begins to kick back in. But it may not flick the drug switch, it may come at the addict in other ways. Maybe the addict gets a job and becomes obsessed with money, or obsessed with porn, obsessed with hookers. ANYTHING LITERALLY, the addiction will literally do ANYTHING to make the addict suffer. You have to remember, the disease of addiction wants you dead.
Tips for family members:
If your addict family member has a little clean time and you both get in a fight, do not bring up past incidents when the addict was using. The past is the past, its time to move forward.
You don't have to be overly protective or overly sweet to your addict family member. I know it is hard to trust them again so it is ok to take everything they say with a grain of salt, but don't over due it, let them recover.
This one is ONLY a suggestion but suggest your addict family member to go to a self help program, preferbly Narcotics Anonymous or Alcoholics Anonymous. This is so that they get the tools to help them in their recovery.
I am in no way a spokes person for any self help group, for any drug rehab, these are just things that I've learned, I've seen them work, I understand how they work and I have compassion for every single drug addict and every single family member of that drug addict who walks the planet. This advice is up to you to take and I hope you learned a thing or to. Don't forget to smile.
Tuesday, November 3, 2009
How to Get a Girl if your a Shy Guy
If you are reading this blog then I suspect you are looking for advice. Well, in that case, you have come to the right place. I have taken time out of my school work to give guys like me, some advice. Although, I can be very shy sometimes, Im not always. Here are the most important suggestions for all you guys out there.
Most Important: Have Confidence. It is either for a girl to determine if your shy or not, but don't ALWAYS be shy. Show her that you have confidence in yourself. SHow her that you take pride in yourself and make your shyness a positive, it is possible. Which leads me to my next suggestion...
Well actually, heres a little story from the Mantis. Not so long ago I met a girl at my college. I don't try to meet girls, it just happens, its natural. I rarley approach a girl unless I feel like it is absolutley right. But anyway...So this girl was in the same class as me and I didnt think anything of her. A couple nights after seeing her for the first time I saw her at a local Stop and Shop. Didnt think ANYthing of it, didn't even say a word to her. The next day I saw her in school and we were both walking to our cars and I looked over without thinking and said "So you work at Stop and Shop?" and she looked over at me with her golden brown eyes and talked 50 miles an hour until I thought my head would expload. Than I see her the following week and she reassures me that I can come visit her at Stop and Shop. Than I see her later and admit that Im a song writer, she wanted to listen, she listened, we exchanged numbers and after that it was basically down hill. Let me explain why... First she was very flakey, she would make plans and not go through with them. This went on for a while but Im a hopeless romantic and didnt want to give up. So I brought her coffee to her job cause she asked me to visit her, I bought her ciggerettes, I gave her a flower. It wasn't until a month and a half after we met that she told me she had a boyfriend. SOOOOO...GUYS...LEARN FROM ME!
Listen: There are different levels of shy guys. I am not the shyest guy ever, but Im up there somewhere(or down there) and I dunno how shy you are, but ASK QUESTIONS.
Do not be afraid to ask her if she has a boyfriend, that is a perfectly normal question to ask.
Do not be afraid to not answer her calls once in a while or not to call her at all(it is called "hard to get")
Do not make yourself so available that apparently your life revolves around her!
Do not tell her everything that is on your mind, be a little mysterious
Most important, BE YOURSELF.
Listen guys, if you've read this far, you must be a "nice guy", so if theres one thing I already know about ya is, your nice. Listen so am I, your great guys I already know you. You would hold a door open for just about anyone, you listen to people's problems, you do favors and don't expect things in return, I know you guys already. But there is one more thing you must learn...
Never let ANYONE change how you feel about yourself.
I don't care if its a women or a boss, hell your probabley so nice that a hobo could call you a loser and you'd get offended.(by the way, thats called low self esteem). Love yourself is what Im trying to say dammit.
Your a great person, I know you! The most important thing you need to know shy guys, is that you must love yourself. but this artical isn't on low self esteem so I digress...
Lets see anymore tips? If there are any girls reading I would like for them to comment and leave tips for shy guys(don't be afraid to be rough) and if there are any guys reading, feel free to ask any questions to myself and let me know ifI've helped you in anyway.
Most Important: Have Confidence. It is either for a girl to determine if your shy or not, but don't ALWAYS be shy. Show her that you have confidence in yourself. SHow her that you take pride in yourself and make your shyness a positive, it is possible. Which leads me to my next suggestion...
Well actually, heres a little story from the Mantis. Not so long ago I met a girl at my college. I don't try to meet girls, it just happens, its natural. I rarley approach a girl unless I feel like it is absolutley right. But anyway...So this girl was in the same class as me and I didnt think anything of her. A couple nights after seeing her for the first time I saw her at a local Stop and Shop. Didnt think ANYthing of it, didn't even say a word to her. The next day I saw her in school and we were both walking to our cars and I looked over without thinking and said "So you work at Stop and Shop?" and she looked over at me with her golden brown eyes and talked 50 miles an hour until I thought my head would expload. Than I see her the following week and she reassures me that I can come visit her at Stop and Shop. Than I see her later and admit that Im a song writer, she wanted to listen, she listened, we exchanged numbers and after that it was basically down hill. Let me explain why... First she was very flakey, she would make plans and not go through with them. This went on for a while but Im a hopeless romantic and didnt want to give up. So I brought her coffee to her job cause she asked me to visit her, I bought her ciggerettes, I gave her a flower. It wasn't until a month and a half after we met that she told me she had a boyfriend. SOOOOO...GUYS...LEARN FROM ME!
Listen: There are different levels of shy guys. I am not the shyest guy ever, but Im up there somewhere(or down there) and I dunno how shy you are, but ASK QUESTIONS.
Do not be afraid to ask her if she has a boyfriend, that is a perfectly normal question to ask.
Do not be afraid to not answer her calls once in a while or not to call her at all(it is called "hard to get")
Do not make yourself so available that apparently your life revolves around her!
Do not tell her everything that is on your mind, be a little mysterious
Most important, BE YOURSELF.
Listen guys, if you've read this far, you must be a "nice guy", so if theres one thing I already know about ya is, your nice. Listen so am I, your great guys I already know you. You would hold a door open for just about anyone, you listen to people's problems, you do favors and don't expect things in return, I know you guys already. But there is one more thing you must learn...
Never let ANYONE change how you feel about yourself.
I don't care if its a women or a boss, hell your probabley so nice that a hobo could call you a loser and you'd get offended.(by the way, thats called low self esteem). Love yourself is what Im trying to say dammit.
Your a great person, I know you! The most important thing you need to know shy guys, is that you must love yourself. but this artical isn't on low self esteem so I digress...
Lets see anymore tips? If there are any girls reading I would like for them to comment and leave tips for shy guys(don't be afraid to be rough) and if there are any guys reading, feel free to ask any questions to myself and let me know ifI've helped you in anyway.
Monday, November 2, 2009
How to Write a Song (Tips and suggestions to devoloping your natural ability)
Well people, what do you think? How does someone even begin to write a song? The answer is obvious, first you must learn how to play an instrument and by instrument, this could mean your own voice. After you have learned this, here are some suggestions I have learned from experience that I am passing on to you. Just so you know, I have been writing songs since I was thirteen years old and I hadn't even started playing an instrument untill I was 14! I'll let you know how but first, some beginniner suggestions.
First suggestion: Learn how to play a simple song. Whether you heard it on the radio, on a cd, on a commercial...learn how to play it. Once you've learned how to play and sing it(regardless of how good or bad your voice is) begin to just play the chords. Then, start to hum your own melody over the chords you are playing. This may take a little while so let it be natural. Let the melody flow out of you like a river, do not force it, it will come to you.
Second suggestion: Begin to start putting your own chords together. If you think it is absolutley neccisary to learn music theory before you learn how to write a song then your crazy. Song writing is better learned before you learn music theory on my opionion because you are already devoloping a natural ability before a knowledge based ability. While putting the chords together just start humming, it is ok if you start humming a song that was already created. Infact, thats great because you are seeing for yourself how a song is created!
Third suggestion: Be you. Don't start writing a love song in hope the girl next door will hear you and fall in love with you. Do not write for anyone except for you! Lemme tell you, when I write songs I write from the heart, neer to impress anyone, I never worry about what someone may think while writing the song. Because I write from the heart, my songs end up usually in the "love" category of subjects, but it is from the heart. So, when I go play the song for the girl next door, she absolutley see's that it came from my heart and is naturally impresses. Song writing should only come from the heart.
Fourth suggestion: This one is just for fun(if you are 13-14 this is a good one). Learn how to doo-wop. It doesn't have to sound good at all, maybe get you and a couple of your friends together to try this, this is how I began song writing: Take one doo-wop song (preferbley writtin in the 50's) and learn how to sing it. Than devolope creative lyrics to replace the ones in the song. Now you can add extra parts, get a little free style rap in there somewhere, BE CREATIVE.
Fifth suggestion: BE CREATIVE AND DON'T GIVE UP: As a devolping song writer you may become discouraged many many times. When I started showing my friends my songs at 14-15 they would say "yeah that song is ok" and "yeah, but you need to do this and you need to do that" and that would frustrate me very much. This is ok though! Your talent will devolope whether you realise or not but you MUST keep writing.
Sixth Suggestion: Sometimes good lyrics are hard to come by. Just remember, the best lyrics come from your heart. Some people are very good at sitting in front of a white page and writing down full songs, hell I am too sometimes, but personally for me I am a better free styler. What I mean by this is personally, after creating a melody and vocal pattern I just start singing lyrics off the top of my head or from my heart(depending on my mood) AND THE LYRICS I LIKE, I WRITE DOWN. Sometimes it takes me a month to write a song, because I allow it to be naural. The words always come to me, the melodys always come to me as long as I don't force them. When I force them, well, thats when I get the songs where my friends all say "yeah you should..." and when that happens, I still want to give up, but never do.
You can write songs, you can! Anyone can, it is a valuable and theraputic ability, who knows, you may become famous.
First suggestion: Learn how to play a simple song. Whether you heard it on the radio, on a cd, on a commercial...learn how to play it. Once you've learned how to play and sing it(regardless of how good or bad your voice is) begin to just play the chords. Then, start to hum your own melody over the chords you are playing. This may take a little while so let it be natural. Let the melody flow out of you like a river, do not force it, it will come to you.
Second suggestion: Begin to start putting your own chords together. If you think it is absolutley neccisary to learn music theory before you learn how to write a song then your crazy. Song writing is better learned before you learn music theory on my opionion because you are already devoloping a natural ability before a knowledge based ability. While putting the chords together just start humming, it is ok if you start humming a song that was already created. Infact, thats great because you are seeing for yourself how a song is created!
Third suggestion: Be you. Don't start writing a love song in hope the girl next door will hear you and fall in love with you. Do not write for anyone except for you! Lemme tell you, when I write songs I write from the heart, neer to impress anyone, I never worry about what someone may think while writing the song. Because I write from the heart, my songs end up usually in the "love" category of subjects, but it is from the heart. So, when I go play the song for the girl next door, she absolutley see's that it came from my heart and is naturally impresses. Song writing should only come from the heart.
Fourth suggestion: This one is just for fun(if you are 13-14 this is a good one). Learn how to doo-wop. It doesn't have to sound good at all, maybe get you and a couple of your friends together to try this, this is how I began song writing: Take one doo-wop song (preferbley writtin in the 50's) and learn how to sing it. Than devolope creative lyrics to replace the ones in the song. Now you can add extra parts, get a little free style rap in there somewhere, BE CREATIVE.
Fifth suggestion: BE CREATIVE AND DON'T GIVE UP: As a devolping song writer you may become discouraged many many times. When I started showing my friends my songs at 14-15 they would say "yeah that song is ok" and "yeah, but you need to do this and you need to do that" and that would frustrate me very much. This is ok though! Your talent will devolope whether you realise or not but you MUST keep writing.
Sixth Suggestion: Sometimes good lyrics are hard to come by. Just remember, the best lyrics come from your heart. Some people are very good at sitting in front of a white page and writing down full songs, hell I am too sometimes, but personally for me I am a better free styler. What I mean by this is personally, after creating a melody and vocal pattern I just start singing lyrics off the top of my head or from my heart(depending on my mood) AND THE LYRICS I LIKE, I WRITE DOWN. Sometimes it takes me a month to write a song, because I allow it to be naural. The words always come to me, the melodys always come to me as long as I don't force them. When I force them, well, thats when I get the songs where my friends all say "yeah you should..." and when that happens, I still want to give up, but never do.
You can write songs, you can! Anyone can, it is a valuable and theraputic ability, who knows, you may become famous.
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